Are You Stuck on Finding Your Why?

passion purpose Mar 04, 2019

Anyone who has taken any type of self improvement course has been told to find their why. While this may sound easy enough, it is not always simple to identify your why. This article will give you some suggestions for how you can really find your why in life.

Before you can identify your why you need to know which area of your life needs improvement. Why are you looking for a meaning to your life? Are you looking for an overall purpose, or do you need to develop a why for a specific reason? For example you may want to uncover your why so you can lose weight or stick to an exercise regimen. Or perhaps you're building a business and understanding your why will determine your branding.

It can often be a little easier to define your why for specific reasons. If you are trying to lose weight you will want to have certain reasons for doing so. This could include wanting to look more attractive, to feel better, to be able to play with your kids or to battle a medical issue.

To uncover your why it can be helpful to understand why you are doing your current habits. With eating, as an example, why is it that you are over eating? Are you self conscious about a certain part of your body? Are you addicted to sugar or to carbs?

Sometimes your why can be a little sneaky. When my relationship with my son's father went downhill, I gained about 50 pounds. I attributed this to the stress and struggle of ending the relationship and the subsequent issues that followed. And I struggled for years with the weight. When I dived in to figure out why I kept sabotaging myself, it hit me. When he and I first got together, he had commented “I finally have an athletic girlfriend”. So my subconscious, in an effort to protect myself, set up roadblocks to weightloss.

Once you have this information in hand it can be easier to develop a why. If you want to kick the sugar habit start paying attention to those times when you eat more sugar. Are you feeling unhappy or alone when you do this? You are not alone if you do this. There's a reason we call certain things “comfort foods".

Uncovering your why can be difficult and it does require that you are open and honest with yourself. But once you have a why then you can be more focused and motivated.
If you want to find your why to living a more fulfilled and happier life in general, you have to do almost the same steps. First you need to identify what it is that is making you feel unhappy. Are you lonely, do you hate your job, or do you wish you were in a better relationship? Try to drill this down to specifics. Understand that your why may shift as you engage in identifying it. This is a normal and means you are making progress! Keep at it!

Once you know why you feel the way you do, it will be easier to take corrective steps. If you are feeling lonely, can you join a health or social club? If you are just plain bored, is there a hobby that you would like to start?

Even if you are currently stuck on finding your why, use the above steps to uncover your true feelings. This, in return, will identify your why.

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